When we feel we've got unfinished business in life, we can feel disheartened. Everybody has certain goals, but more people have regrets.
This is a worryingly high statistic. And therefore, it's unsurprising that conditions like depression loom large. It's about mindset and giving it a shake-up. How can you change yours? We have to remember that our mindsets are formed through previous experiences and emotional milestones in life. And while you know that these mindsets are not productive and that you have to become a positive person, it's easy to become a positive person in some ways, but in other ways, it requires a lot more effort.
Once you start to recognize how many negative thoughts you have throughout the course of a day, this could be the opportunity to flip the switch. When you identify your negative thoughts, you need to look at the main ones that are holding you back. And then, you can start to change the negative to positive. So if you look in the mirror and think you look ugly, one simple way to offset this would be to say that you look good.
There are other ways you can change your mindset, such as understanding why you think certain thoughts about yourself.
But in addition, you will have to remember that when it comes to changing your mindset, it's not just about using the tools, but it's about persistence. So even in the best of cases, there are still curve balls we all face. When that happens, realize you have the power to change how you feel, even if you cannot change the circumstances you face.
In a study by the University of Derby in the UK , where participants spent time in nature each day for 30 days found all of these benefits:. Rather than powering through a tough day, consider stepping away to take a walk to refresh yourself. Robert A. Emmons of the University of California, Davis, and Dr.
Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami have studied gratitude extensively, and their findings are pretty amazing. In one study, they split people into 3 groups: one group wrote about positive things they were grateful for, another wrote about irritations and things that bothered them, and the third wrote about general events. From there they found:. Surprisingly, they also exercised more and had fewer visits to physicians than those who focused on sources of aggravation.
The best thing you can do is find the smallest thing you can do to make some progress on your project. As long as it still is important to you, it can relieve many of your feelings. As you embrace changing your mindset when emotions get the best of you at work, consider these links:.
As Jerry Colonna so astutely asks in his great book for founders, Reboot , you have to look at how the things that happen around you are because of you. All it takes is your awareness that these are possible, and making the decision to take the small steps that make a big difference. Your mind is as powerful as you choose to make it. Learn something today? Share it so your friends can, too:.
Click here to cancel reply. You must be logged in to post a comment. Share via. Facebook Messenger. Visualize yourself going through the steps. Then take action, regardless of how you feel. This is important to change your mindset. In a fixed mindset, you feel like a failure. You keep to yourself, avoiding teammates and the media. You disappear after each game.
Choosing growth : Remind yourself that playing in the pros is a totally new experience requiring a big adjustment. Ask yourself how you can find out what you need to know. You spend time with veteran players, asking questions and reviewing tapes. You talk about your adjustment process and they empathize and give you advice for adjusting mentally and physically.
Imagine starting a new job at the bottom rung of the ladder. You feel the work is demeaning but your boss thinks you have a bad attitude and passes over you for promotion or additional responsibility. Choosing growth : Instead of fixating on your superiority, you look for cues on how the company works and how others get ahead. You realize that many CEOs had to start at the bottom too. You notice that effort counts, so you begin working harder.
You think everything is perfect: You have a great career, marriage, and kids. As a result, your partner begins pulling away from you emotionally. Choosing growth : You start rethinking your marriage and yourself.
You can learn to be less judgmental and develop relationship skills. Your daughter is at the top of her class and studying the flute.
But she begins feeling ill with an upset stomach before school each day and is diagnosed with an ulcer. A counselor tells you she is feeling too pressured and you need to ease up on her and make sure she gets more sleep.
Choosing growth : You need to work out a concrete plan you can all follow. You think about how you can help her develop a growth mindset so she can ease up and enjoy life. You put the flute lessons on hold. You allow her to practice when she wants to, but only for fun. She gets a tutor to teach her how to study to learn.
And everyone talks to her about progress and learning, not grades. When your family violates one of your rules take out the garbage each week , you feel personally betrayed and start criticizing.
You progress to insults, then rage.
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